Your Loyalty Proverbs 31 Woman Series

January 28, 2014

Proverbs 31 Woman Series

"The heart of her husband safely trusts her."

This weeks series will be about Proverbs 31:11, trust and loyalty. 
I know like me you might be thinking, "My husband has nothing to worry about, I love him. I would never cheat on him." But this scripture isn't just about your fidelity. 
It's about trust, commitment, loyalty, submission and the list can go on.

Let's look at the meaning of these two words.

Loyalty- faithful to a private person to whom fidelity is held to be due; state of being loyal.
Trust- To place or be confident; hope, depend; to rely on truthfulness or accuracy; believe.

So looking beyond the fidelity issue {which is VERY important} I want to focus on the other matters of loyalty and trust. 

Does your husband have confidence in your ability to take care of your home?
Does your husband depend on you to do what he has asked you to do?
Does he trust that you are always being open, honest and accurate with him about your spending?

Those are only a few things to think about!

I will be candid with you, this was not always easy for me. I have been married 9 years now and the first few years were brutal. We were trying to make two lives become one...which is a hard process. When it came to money we had two separate ideas on how this was to be managed. I was on a TIGHT budget and I didn't like it!
I would go to the store with my pre-approved list, if I bought one thing that wasn't on that list my hubby was not happy. For the longest time I fought and fought my case on why I should be allowed to spend what I wanted, when I wanted to.
But I failed to see the disobedience, the unsubmissive attitude and spirit in my actions. My husband had no trust and confidence in my ability to manage our finances the way he thought best.  

When it comes to marriage we are our husbands help meet, not the other way around. {Genesis 2:18}
We are to let them lead and we are to follow.

"How are we to get our husbands to trust us??"

Here is a list of how to's:

1. Take trust seriously- Don't let little things slide thinking it doesn't matter, it matters to your husband and to God. Do not only take fidelity seriously but take how you manage your day to day living seriously. 

2. Keep your word- Do what you say you will do. If you tell your hubby that you will be back by such and such time, be back at that time. If you make detours along the way and are going to be late, call so he knows. This concept applies to anything and everything you tell or say to your husband. 

3. Follow through on instructions- Do not ask why, just follow through. Our husbands were placed as leaders in our lives, we should not question their authority or ability to lead. 

4. When in doubt, check it out!- If you are not 100% sure it's the right thing to buy, call and ask. If you aren't sure your husband would like to spend the evening with friends without asking him, hold off on inviting them over, ask your husband what he wants. It never hurts to wait and ask, but it will be hard on you if you go ahead and displease your husband.

5. Be accountable- Always have your phone on and ready to answer when your husband calls. Your husband should know were you are at all times. Nothing builds trust more than being willing to be accountable and informing him of your plans. 

These items may seem old fashioned to some, but they are essential to having a marriage filled with love, peace and trust. 

If it helps, think of this: how would you feel if your husband did his own thing with no regard for what you thought. If he didn't call you and showed up 2 hours late after work? What if he spent money like it was going out of style and you had no money for essential household items or bills?

Yeah, you wouldn't like it....neither does he....

Let's work toward a our husbands trusting us!!!

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  1. Hi! I was going through comments on the old AP page I had on my personal blog to make sure I had all the links added to the new site. Thanks for adding the blogger button! Your blog is on the list, but you probably already know that by now! :)

    1. Anonymous2:21 PM

      Oh thank you, yes I did notice already but that's not a problem. I love telling people who I am and what I stand for!!

  2. While I agree with much of what you say here (a little stricter than the way our home runs, but that's ok) I do think that on the husband's side it has to be a two-way street. I want my wife to walk beside me, not behind me. I don't want to just dictate a budget, I want to work together on it so we both "buy in". I certainly don't want Rachel to feel like she's a second-class citizen or to live in constant fear of setting me off. That wouldn't be loving her like Christ loves the church and gave Himself for it. In marriage, as in life, it's all about balance. :) Great post!

    1. Anonymous2:26 PM

      Thank you for your insight. I agree that marriage is a walk beside each other kinda thing, as it should be! I think that my main goal is to bring awareness to always being willing to obey, respect and submit to our husbands even in the little things. I truly hope that this did not offend or make it appear that men are superior...that was not my intentions...God bless you and thanks again for your response.


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